Blame Or Accept Responsibility?

When you blame others, you give up your power to change.
--Dr. Robert Anthony

This is so true. When you put the blame on others for your problems, you're saying only other people - over whom you have no control - can improve your life. You're giving them total power and control over you. If you want things to change, YOU have to do the changing and you can only do that when you accept the truth that you're responsible for yourself and your life. If things have gone wrong, chances are you're the one who caused it, or at least played a part in things going awry.

Owen
coach@man2woman.net

More from Kara: A Mean Little Book

I was at a Hallmark store the other day and on the counter was a stand with the cutest little 2 inch books. One grabbed my attention because the title was "What Women Say About Men". On each page was a put-down of men. The one I remember was "The more I understand men, the more I like dogs." After reading a couple more I asked the man at the counter if all the entries were that mean-spirited. He said pretty much but that he thought they were kind of funny. We talked more about the commercials, films, and sitcoms that make men look like bafoons. The fact that he's accepted this as how it is made me sad.

I asked him if he thought a book that was aimed at putting down women would sell and he agreed with me that women would be completely up-in-arms. Putting men down has become so common that we don't generally question it. But think about this: How might this attitude be coloring your image of men and how you treat them? And how might that be affecting your current or past relationships? Pay attention overthe next few weeks. Maybe there are some adjustments in your thinking and interactions that could help your relationships with men.

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