Are All Men Dishonest?

I was reading a lady’s blog on myspace.com and she said she was about to give up on men, something to the effect that men are dishonest. We hear and see that so often, to men it’s a sad, sick joke. Almost any man will say that most women lie all the time!

I’m a firm believer that what you project you will attract, or call it karma if you’d rather. The point is, if you’re dishonest, people will be dishonest with you. If you’re honest, you’ll attract honesty. And if your perspective is that men aren't honest you'll be imagining lies where there aren't any. You'll never trust a man and without trust you simply can NOT have a healthy relationship.

We see it all the time in online personals, women bemoaning the lack of honest men, while they lie about their age or weight (or both) or use a 5-10 year old picture. It’s so commonplace that men in my age group expect it! But as we all know, the problem with lying is that eventually the truth comes out, right? And the person you’re meeting I can guarantee will be disappointed – at LEAST! Try pissed off, disillusioned, angry, whatever. Just as YOU would be if he did it.

You want to know the real downside of a woman questioning the honesty of men in general? She's blown her chance with honest men! Why? Well, no honest man with integrity wants to be with a woman who will always assume he's lying, a woman who will never trust him. It's not worth it!

I was just telling a lady who wrote for advice on her “boyfriend” that the two occasions when a man is most likely to lie or mislead is when he wants to get into your pants and when he wants to keep you around, assuming he thinks the truth won’t work. Well, that’s something we seem to have in common with you women: you’re most likely to lie when it comes to affairs of the heart, too. When you want a man to be interested and when you want to keep him around.

I recently read an article about lying in our culture, how it’s gotten so mainstream. I think that’s sad!

Oh, by the way, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Ready? A man can usually tell when a woman lies to him. I’m not going to tell you how because we like having that advantage.:-)